Reality #1: Born in Time and Space
Humans do not know some fundamental but essential truths. We don’t know where we came from, why we are here or where we are going. But, it seems evident that we do exist in time and space. Consciousness is an awesome mystery, and our Creative Thought attempts to answer these existential questions. Humans have created a variety of “answers,” best understood as beliefs.
Reality #2: Born on planet earth in motion
The planet earth is in motion; therefore, all that is on the planet is in motion. This fact requires a Movement response from all living things in the form of Activity. All interest in “motivation” is but an interest in how we respond to life, as the word “movement” is derived from the same language source as “motivation.” Our striving is from deficit to success, from a felt “minus” to a felt “plus” position. We strive to develop a community amid chaos. Our activity creates stability, the impression of increased security, and a higher quality of life by participating in the creation of a community.
Reality #3: Born with needs not provided
We exist on the thin and muddy crust of a planet that does not automatically provide essential food and shelter except for our goal-oriented efforts. We must put forth an individual attempt, create cooperative group efforts, and provide shelter and food to reduce our Anxiety about surviving as an individual and a species. Existential anxiety is a response to our self-doubts regarding our capability to meet our needs in the future. We must intentionally Work and be useful to others to continue our existence and perpetuate our human species. Beyond this, we work to create a comfortable experience in life.
Reality #4: Born as unitary individuals:
We are born by separating from our mothers as helpless and dependent infants, immediately needing others to survive. Nature has not provided us with the biological equipment to survive without help. The initial experience of the “social feeling” in relations with others is the first experience of security for the helpless infant. Socialization is a profound source of belonging and security, leading us to solve the unpleasant feeling of Separateness. Having co-evolved with all others from birth, we are social beings, socially embedded, and we have a life-long desire to belong in the context of these Relations. Due to the reality of death, we must replicate ourselves by conceiving and birthing children in the context of sex, love, family, and community relationships. We deeply wish to belong with others and are constantly motivated to satisfy this desire, whether children are involved or not.
Humans do not know some fundamental but essential truths. We don’t know where we came from, why we are here or where we are going. But, it seems evident that we do exist in time and space. Consciousness is an awesome mystery, and our Creative Thought attempts to answer these existential questions. Humans have created a variety of “answers,” best understood as beliefs.
Reality #2: Born on planet earth in motion
The planet earth is in motion; therefore, all that is on the planet is in motion. This fact requires a Movement response from all living things in the form of Activity. All interest in “motivation” is but an interest in how we respond to life, as the word “movement” is derived from the same language source as “motivation.” Our striving is from deficit to success, from a felt “minus” to a felt “plus” position. We strive to develop a community amid chaos. Our activity creates stability, the impression of increased security, and a higher quality of life by participating in the creation of a community.
Reality #3: Born with needs not provided
We exist on the thin and muddy crust of a planet that does not automatically provide essential food and shelter except for our goal-oriented efforts. We must put forth an individual attempt, create cooperative group efforts, and provide shelter and food to reduce our Anxiety about surviving as an individual and a species. Existential anxiety is a response to our self-doubts regarding our capability to meet our needs in the future. We must intentionally Work and be useful to others to continue our existence and perpetuate our human species. Beyond this, we work to create a comfortable experience in life.
Reality #4: Born as unitary individuals:
We are born by separating from our mothers as helpless and dependent infants, immediately needing others to survive. Nature has not provided us with the biological equipment to survive without help. The initial experience of the “social feeling” in relations with others is the first experience of security for the helpless infant. Socialization is a profound source of belonging and security, leading us to solve the unpleasant feeling of Separateness. Having co-evolved with all others from birth, we are social beings, socially embedded, and we have a life-long desire to belong in the context of these Relations. Due to the reality of death, we must replicate ourselves by conceiving and birthing children in the context of sex, love, family, and community relationships. We deeply wish to belong with others and are constantly motivated to satisfy this desire, whether children are involved or not.
“The first evidence of the inborn social feeling unfolds in his early search for tenderness, which leads him to seek the proximity of adults.” |
Reality #5: Born incapable
We are born as unique but Powerless individuals and possess a continuous desire (a striving) to be competent and significant. We are among others throughout our lives and make efforts to overcome basic and universal inferiority feelings. Our uniqueness means we are creative in our subjective interpretations of life and respond uniquely to movement. We create unified meanings to life, and all our thoughts, actions, feelings, physiology, memories, and dreams lead toward unified goals as we create a unique life-style and sense of self-significance. We are each a whole system, undivided, and are differentiated by our self-created guiding themes, though influenced by genetics and past experiences. Who we are is important to us, and our task of Self-development toward competence and the goal of being uniquely significant among others is always motivating for us. We strive to find our place in the world and desire to be a uniquely recognized existence by others.
Reality #6: Born naked
We are all born naked and experience Helplessness. All living things want to live and strive to do so. Survival is not left to chance but is sought purposely. Evolutionary psychologists maintain that human behavior is an output of Adaptive efforts that evolved in the context of ancestral environments. Behaviors that occur universally in all cultures are good examples of evolutionary adaptations.
For example, all living things have six characteristics in common:
Organization
Movement
Growth
Reproduction
Metabolism
Adaptation
For the helpless infant, all of these natural characteristics of living things contribute to the goal of survival.
We are born as unique but Powerless individuals and possess a continuous desire (a striving) to be competent and significant. We are among others throughout our lives and make efforts to overcome basic and universal inferiority feelings. Our uniqueness means we are creative in our subjective interpretations of life and respond uniquely to movement. We create unified meanings to life, and all our thoughts, actions, feelings, physiology, memories, and dreams lead toward unified goals as we create a unique life-style and sense of self-significance. We are each a whole system, undivided, and are differentiated by our self-created guiding themes, though influenced by genetics and past experiences. Who we are is important to us, and our task of Self-development toward competence and the goal of being uniquely significant among others is always motivating for us. We strive to find our place in the world and desire to be a uniquely recognized existence by others.
Reality #6: Born naked
We are all born naked and experience Helplessness. All living things want to live and strive to do so. Survival is not left to chance but is sought purposely. Evolutionary psychologists maintain that human behavior is an output of Adaptive efforts that evolved in the context of ancestral environments. Behaviors that occur universally in all cultures are good examples of evolutionary adaptations.
For example, all living things have six characteristics in common:
Organization
Movement
Growth
Reproduction
Metabolism
Adaptation
For the helpless infant, all of these natural characteristics of living things contribute to the goal of survival.
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